Fantastic essay. I just un-locked this post, which talks about some of it from the Nice Guy's perspective...

And yes, I too am an Aspie and it took me a long time to learn to "read" people and size up social situations. It can be done, but one has to want to do it for the right reasons. "I want to be able to read body language so I can pick up chicks" is not the right reason. "I want to be able to read body language so I can better get along with everyone I meet" is much better...