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benndragon ([personal profile] brynndragon) wrote2006-03-23 12:54 pm
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Too Good a Rant Not to Share

It's not that nice guys finish last. It's that Nice Guys finish last and with good reason. Read further: No More Mr. Nice Guy.

[identity profile] benndragon.livejournal.com 2006-03-27 08:46 pm (UTC)(link)
I've found that one of the things I value in a partner is being truly themselves, even if that might not be popular or something I would like. I've had show-stopping arguements with my intimate fuck-buddy, where one or the other of us end up refusing to continue the discussion lest things get *really* nasty. But the Nice Guy will try to be what they think I want, which is usually not even vaguely what I want (I want someone who thinks for themselves while respecting my opinion, for example, and it's orders-of-magnitude harder to figure that out and play along than just be like that naturally).

As for sweet guys, I've found that respect and caring are far sweeter than the saccarine service-with-a-smile attitude that is one of the hallmarks of a Nice Guy. Bending over backwards is only sexy if done bodily rather than socially ;P.

[identity profile] eyesys.livejournal.com 2006-03-27 09:46 pm (UTC)(link)
The kind of guys I like *like* servitude, but only because they know that they are weilding power over me, not because I'm a wus. :P

I'm still very lippy and bratty however. >:)