i'd be psyched to see your version of the contrapositive. i have some odd views on this, based on my solo explorations into dating early on - new to area - no possee to hang with or learn the ropes. HS was the pits and college was too busy studying and trying to make something of myself to date seriously or with intent. by the time i was seriously ready to Date, i was done for. i found the market predatory and harsh. too many games and odd expectations. i've met a lot of Nice people, and was horrified. i'm sure i've come off that way sometimes, but i'm betting i've had it "done" to me more often.

as for defensive, that's fairly natural. most people are about something, true or not. even if one ISN'T, one does not want to be perceived as. for anything.

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