Hugs - it might not be that it's not for you anymore but you need a break from it. Sometimes if you spend too much time on a forum or with a specific group of people, even as well-meaning as they might be, you find stuff like this...even mature adults can sometimes turn into highschoolers. I have observed this phenomenon for years and I don't entirely understand it, but it's there, sometimes pretty much across the board in any community. Maybe it's because that was the time in our lives when we put the most value on friendships and that's what we model on when things go wrong? I don't know.
Online stuff can start by someone misunderstanding something you were trying to say, assuming it meant something far worse and then suddenly they are all over your case. It could have been some innocent comment you made months ago to which she took offense without your knowledge. You mignt just want to ask her nicely (if even through gritted teeth) :P and see what she says.
The honeymoon stage with the whole poly thing might be over for you and it's life as normal. Where people are finding this stuff extraordinary, you have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and are bored of the same (damn) conversations. That's ok. It happens. Doesn't mean it's not the community for you necessarily but maybe you need to spend less time there. I am not as excited about Pagan groups, etc. as I used to be, but I still consider myself Pagan. I just don't spend a lot of time talking about it, shopping for it, etc. Just a for instance. IN some ways that has been good for me as I have been more able to figure out stuff for myself.
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Online stuff can start by someone misunderstanding something you were trying to say, assuming it meant something far worse and then suddenly they are all over your case. It could have been some innocent comment you made months ago to which she took offense without your knowledge. You mignt just want to ask her nicely (if even through gritted teeth) :P and see what she says.
The honeymoon stage with the whole poly thing might be over for you and it's life as normal. Where people are finding this stuff extraordinary, you have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and are bored of the same (damn) conversations. That's ok. It happens. Doesn't mean it's not the community for you necessarily but maybe you need to spend less time there. I am not as excited about Pagan groups, etc. as I used to be, but I still consider myself Pagan. I just don't spend a lot of time talking about it, shopping for it, etc. Just a for instance. IN some ways that has been good for me as I have been more able to figure out stuff for myself.