Kaz said something similar to me once, so I pretty much agree with all of this. I have had friends that tried to play the "Nice Guy" card and failed miserably, and I have even, on occasion, expressed bewilderment as to what I am "lacking". Of course, it's taken a good chunk of my life to understand the difference between nice people and Nice Guys, but it's actually there.
Only one sentence in that entire thing strikes me as inaccurate, however:
Body language and nonverbal cues are not that hard to learn to read.
For a lot of people this is true. However, as someone who cannot read body language and nonverbal cues without intense concentration and study, I'd like to make a point that sometimes, just once in a while, a person simply cannot tell you are looking at them, or flirting with them, or standing in an inviting way.
Sometimes it really does take a whack from the shoju mallet to get a point across to someone like me. :) Almost no one wants to go through that trouble and assumes that my lack of response to the "cues" indicates uninterest. Likewise, my own lack of proper non-verbal cues makes it difficult for me to express myself that way.
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Date: 2006-03-23 06:22 pm (UTC)Only one sentence in that entire thing strikes me as inaccurate, however:
Body language and nonverbal cues are not that hard to learn to read.
For a lot of people this is true. However, as someone who cannot read body language and nonverbal cues without intense concentration and study, I'd like to make a point that sometimes, just once in a while, a person simply cannot tell you are looking at them, or flirting with them, or standing in an inviting way.
Sometimes it really does take a whack from the shoju mallet to get a point across to someone like me. :) Almost no one wants to go through that trouble and assumes that my lack of response to the "cues" indicates uninterest. Likewise, my own lack of proper non-verbal cues makes it difficult for me to express myself that way.
Just $.02 from a geek :)