It's so true. I tend to like aloof, slightly arrogant men physically the most. They drive me crazy. If they are too available, I tend to respond "shrug whatever" even though I *think* I want a Mr. Nice Guy. I may like them a lot otherwise, might be attracted, but it's always the ones that I'm not sure about entirely or that push me around a little or sometimes a lot that I like the most. If they have the contrast of being sweet to me between the assbeatings, etc. I like them even more. But if they were all sweet, don't think it would really work.
Note, I do NOT like this in a social setting -in fact it completely turns me off. It's only a sexual thing.
I've found that one of the things I value in a partner is being truly themselves, even if that might not be popular or something I would like. I've had show-stopping arguements with my intimate fuck-buddy, where one or the other of us end up refusing to continue the discussion lest things get *really* nasty. But the Nice Guy will try to be what they think I want, which is usually not even vaguely what I want (I want someone who thinks for themselves while respecting my opinion, for example, and it's orders-of-magnitude harder to figure that out and play along than just be like that naturally).
As for sweet guys, I've found that respect and caring are far sweeter than the saccarine service-with-a-smile attitude that is one of the hallmarks of a Nice Guy. Bending over backwards is only sexy if done bodily rather than socially ;P.
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Date: 2006-03-27 08:28 pm (UTC)It's so true. I tend to like aloof, slightly arrogant men physically the most. They drive me crazy. If they are too available, I tend to respond "shrug whatever" even though I *think* I want a Mr. Nice Guy. I may like them a lot otherwise, might be attracted, but it's always the ones that I'm not sure about entirely or that push me around a little or sometimes a lot that I like the most. If they have the contrast of being sweet to me between the assbeatings, etc. I like them even more. But if they were all sweet, don't think it would really work.
Note, I do NOT like this in a social setting -in fact it completely turns me off. It's only a sexual thing.
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Date: 2006-03-27 08:46 pm (UTC)As for sweet guys, I've found that respect and caring are far sweeter than the saccarine service-with-a-smile attitude that is one of the hallmarks of a Nice Guy. Bending over backwards is only sexy if done bodily rather than socially ;P.
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Date: 2006-03-27 09:46 pm (UTC)I'm still very lippy and bratty however. >:)