Transitioning from Nice Guy to nice guy

[brynndragon]

I get the feeling that the defensive reactions demonstrated by some of the comments in my post on the topic of Nice Guys is because people recognized more of themselves than they are comfortable with in the rant I linked to. If you're one of those people, or you got that mildly ill feeling in the pit of your stomach when you read that rant, you might be interested in an essay on becoming a nice guy. I know I found it to be useful. . .

Comments

[water-childe.livejournal.com]

I can already imagine how it might sound.
Cute Girls are girls who act all sweet and totally interested in a guy, purely to get them to buy them things, or pay their way at the bar/ resturant. They use body language and or flirty behavior revealing outfits as their aids. They like the attention, and subconsciously or even consciously see it as a sort of power worthy of braggng rights.

cute girls do all the aforementioned things not because they want attention , drinks, or other items. They exhibit these behaviors because they are genuinely attracted and intersted in the guy/girl. The fact that you might be willing to pay for dinner/drinks/other entertainments is an appreciated and possibly even reciprocated side perk.

[metahacker.livejournal.com]

That's a real issue, but a different one than I'm trying to isolate. Like Nice Guys, my Cute Girls rely on the expectations of society to force their prey to act a certain way. Your Cute Girls are using an asset at their disposal to manipulate, but not really "guilting" men into doing things...