Transitioning from Nice Guy to nice guy

[brynndragon]

I get the feeling that the defensive reactions demonstrated by some of the comments in my post on the topic of Nice Guys is because people recognized more of themselves than they are comfortable with in the rant I linked to. If you're one of those people, or you got that mildly ill feeling in the pit of your stomach when you read that rant, you might be interested in an essay on becoming a nice guy. I know I found it to be useful. . .

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[water-childe.livejournal.com]

Then there are more advanced techniques like the 'low level compliment snare'
This is when a guy/girls praises your appearance in some way but somehow makes it seem like you are 'deficient' in some way. Example: "Wow. I find you really attractive. You're like a 6 or maybe a 7." This is supposed to prey upon your insecurties so that you might protest this only slightly over middle of the road rating. If you take the bait, this proves to the guy/girl in question that you can somewhat easily controled and will suggest things that you can do to convince him/her of your attractiveness. Counter attacks are to completely ignore the bait, or else tell so and so that you think it's utterly presumptious of them to assume that your actually attractiveness/self worth has any bearing or real dependancy on their opinion. If anything this ploy has the power to completely turn off any genuine or budding interest I might have had in the first place. It's like the kiss of death.