Random Thoughts

[brynndragon]

You know, I would like to be a dad someday, but I don't think I would enjoy being a mom. However, I don't think I'd have much choice in the matter. So not so much with having kids, unless I end up with someone who actively wants to do the mom thing.

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Comments

[catya.livejournal.com]

By "Dad" do you mean "non-primary parent" ? :) Or something else?

Personally, I'm happy with being the primary parent, but really cranky when i am / feel like i am the the ONLY active parent. I totally get the advantages of the non-primary parent role though.

[motomuffin.livejournal.com]

Heh.

I've thought the same thing.

I would be sort of OK with NOT being the primary caretaker, NOT the one with most of the responsibility, NOT the one who has to be pregnant.

Even better? Would be having a kid with someone with whom I don't live, and of whom I do not have custody. I think that'd be pretty key. I'd spend every other weekend with it, and then give it back. Hooray!

[etherial.livejournal.com]

So, what you're saying is that you don't want to be a stay-at-home mom. Why abandon the feminine pronoun then?

[ellyfialy.livejournal.com]

Hrm... So when I have kids, do you want to come over and play catch with them? Or sit on our recliner and read the paper? And I can threaten them with "You just wait until Brynn gets here!" Puppy might disapprove, but he'll be busy playing video games.

Leaving the Old Titles Behind

[mistressbellona.livejournal.com]

If you decide to have kids at some point, that doesn't mean you have to stay home with them for the next 18 years. The old titles mean little other than "female parental unit" and "male parental unit" at this point. Many women are the primary bread-winners of their families and, whether or not the father stays home, they have successful careers and are still good mothers.

If you're thinking more along the lines of "but I don't want to be the maternal/softy figure," all I can say is feh. As long as you care about the child they can pick up on it, regarless of how much babying goes on.

[mytheria.livejournal.com]

I've had similar thoughts.
But sometimes in a rather weird direction, in the 1 step removed role. I'd love to find a nice gay couple who'd want me to go through pregnancy and birth. (I'm kooky, I think want to experience that, but I don't want the responsibilty of raising a child at this point in my life, and possibly never) And then be an active part of the child's life in the crazy aunt manner. Not have custody, not be primary care giver, but be actively a part of the child's life and be among the 'trusted adults'.

[brewergnome.livejournal.com]

I'll have to invite Aunt Brynn over when I have children.

My parents switched off. Mom was "Mom" for longer, but for the first five years, Dad made the meals, brought us to daycare, all that jazz. Then Mom realized she barely knew us (and I literally fell asleep face first into my spaghetti) and they switched for 12 years.