Random Thoughts

[brynndragon]

You know, I would like to be a dad someday, but I don't think I would enjoy being a mom. However, I don't think I'd have much choice in the matter. So not so much with having kids, unless I end up with someone who actively wants to do the mom thing.

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Comments

Leaving the Old Titles Behind

[mistressbellona.livejournal.com]

If you decide to have kids at some point, that doesn't mean you have to stay home with them for the next 18 years. The old titles mean little other than "female parental unit" and "male parental unit" at this point. Many women are the primary bread-winners of their families and, whether or not the father stays home, they have successful careers and are still good mothers.

If you're thinking more along the lines of "but I don't want to be the maternal/softy figure," all I can say is feh. As long as you care about the child they can pick up on it, regarless of how much babying goes on.

Re: Leaving the Old Titles Behind

[benndragon.livejournal.com]

Oh, I know about being a cool post-modern working mom who has career, family, and social life, but the way that works in practice is no more appealing to me than the more traditional stay-at-home-mom life. I'd much rather be the post-modern dad who stays at home with the kids once or twice a week while Mom gets to have her post-modern social life, but honestly isn't much different than the traditional dad with career and existance beyond one's kids. I get a bit more into other differences in above comments.