Before getting exceedingly defensive about this essay, guys should realize every Nice Guy essay is not a blanket denouncement of all males who act insecure at some point. The assumption is no one, including women, is innocent of being insecure, controlling and passive agressive. The Nice Guy is a separate catagory of excess - constantly acting out while blaming the people he is attracted to for his own problems. To the rest of the population, the Nice Guy is our flaws writ large a reminder to check yourself.
Though not all Nice Guys are male or straight, his behavior is most frequently exhibited by misogynists. The Nice Guy belief that he has earned sexual or romantic gratification just for treating women nicely an underlying assumption that women are not normally deserving of nice treatment. That's not nice, that's hatred of women.
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Date: 2006-03-27 04:41 pm (UTC)Though not all Nice Guys are male or straight, his behavior is most frequently exhibited by misogynists. The Nice Guy belief that he has earned sexual or romantic gratification just for treating women nicely an underlying assumption that women are not normally deserving of nice treatment. That's not nice, that's hatred of women.